Lecture 10: Body Modification and Tattoos

18 Is the glorious coming of age. You can drink, smoke, have sex and of course have a Tattoo or have a piercing!!

I can understand how many people either want to modify their body because of personal taste in forming an identity or because of culture in a tribe.
But there are forms that are wrong such as the foot blinding of children in a Chinese society and to me it’s not just not right as some might agree that is child abuse to cause harm to a child but there are other instances that cause harm to the likes of adults when it isn’t needed, it is just wrong.

Another form of body modification that is non permanent modification is make up as I am aware that many like to wear make up for a special occasion, but it also always seen on TV shows as the people in front of the camera are always wearing make up to make them look perfect but however in my view it doesn’t refer to real life as many like myself don’t like to wear make up as in my view it shows a confidence within yourself that you’re happy in your own skin. I’m not against wearing make up as there are moments when I like to wear a little lip stick. As for the people who love to have their own style with make up there are certain make up tutorials online for the difference in people such as who wear glasses and for those who like a dramatic look to their face but on the other hand I like when people have their dramatic style as it shows their individuality.

As for tattoos I also feel the certain designs people have shows their individuality. As I know from family and friends how have tattoos they generally have them to show their artistic passion for a certain thing or for memorial of a loved one i.e. Mother, Partner or Children. Tattoos can also be seen on the famous and when it’s noticed that they have a new tattoo it’s in the news as the public are often interested in stars such as Rihanna and Angelina Jolie.

I see nothing wrong with Tattoo but I understand that many faiths feel that Tattoo and other body modifications are an ‘attack on God in changing it from its natural state’ and there are some groups that feel ‘it’s a sign of a mental illness’.

Overall I feel that if you want to modify your body for any reason then you should as its you’re choice as everyone has freewill.

Lecture 9: Infidelity!! AKA Cheating!

Oh the Tigers were a bad boy!

It just shows everyone has the ability to cheat even Celebs like Tiger Woods , Cheryl Cole's footballing husband Ashley and even 'safe' band mate Mark Owen; and It wouldn't be right to not mention John Terry; all of these examples show that the media feeds of such stories and the readers they just love it!

Infidelity involves betrayal, lying, manipulation but especially risk taking and breach of trust of others. Even the innocence of children can be affected as they are often 'piggy in the middle'

In my view it is a form of lying, but its more interesting in the world of celebrities in the media . . . . . why??? maybe it’s because it draws the attention of readers as it proves that celebs are as normal as them and do make mistakes, but with humiliating consequences as one of the cheats found that being a footballer doing the dirty while married can have large consequences on the pitch, as Terry found when he was sacked as England captain because of his private life but many think Terry’s private life shouldn't interfere with his job being on the pitch however in my view it was right he should’ve been sacked as I think just by being the England captain he should be seen as a role model to the younger generation.

The highlight of an affair can also largely affect the marriage as footballer Ashley Cole found when his wife Cheryl ended theirs by giving a statement about her separating from him, but as her private life was just about saved from going out of control the medias focus was there every second even focusing on why she wasn't wearing her wedding ring when performing sometimes it seems quite pathetic the lengths they will go to have a story/article, even more when the 'kiss and tell' stories appear such as one of Tiger Woods mistress going public with the sexual text messages from Tiger during the affair and another of his mistresses also going publc in a tv interview then again they wouldn't get paid if there was no readers or viewers. The only person I felt for was the cheated on was Woods wife as I’m guessing she was not pleased to find out what was going on behind her back, I also think it’s interesting how most of us don't agree with cheating but would be interested in reading about a celebs affairs and the juicy gossip it creates.

There may also other THRILLS to cheating such as the Secrecy? Being caught? The desire to be fulfilled? Or it maybe it just comes to one thing: sexual intercourse with someone else I think this is simply the reason why they cheat because when cheating becomes dangerous it becomes exciting and a thrill to do.
But when the cheating becomes known the result of it can wreck trust in relationships and between friends so is it really worth it? In my view No! If you’ve met someone else end the one you’re in, simple? Maybe not for some as some of the other reasons to cheat may be boredom, revenge, to look cool or even be unfilled when in a loveless relationship. When being in a loveless or abusive relationship becomes the reason is that when cheating becomes justified and not morally wrong?

But even more can anything good come out of the infidelity of a partner? That’s what the author Julia Powell found in her real life drama which inspired her own literally work when she gave an interview.

Maybe this shows that not all cheating is the same.